Our Melanin King Monday feature today is Common. This poetic prophet uses his rhymes to express the need not only for societal and socioeconomic changes, but also how we as a community need to stand up and uplift ourselves. Common has never been shy about using his music to also proclaim his faith and he has held firm in his beliefs. Acting and his philanthropic work are also apart of this rhymers repertoire, but as of late, he can add author to the long list of gifts he possesses. His new book, “Let Love Have the Last Word” is a memoir and it delves into the experiences that have shaped the man he is and is becoming. On Sunday, May 19, 2019 Common sat down with Bishop William H. Murphy III to answer a few questions and discuss his new book. The congregants were also given a free mini concert where Common’s newest single, God Is Love” was debuted with Contagious singing the chorus. The icing on the cake was the freestyle that Common spit for us in which he held true to who he is and began to prophesy over every dReamer in the building, including Bishop Murphy.
During the sit down, Common made an impactful statement that this book tour has been great, but he has been feeling “raw”. When asked to elaborate, he stated that in the book he discusses his molestation as a child and how taboo it is for men, especially in the black community to talk about it. The revelation of how that experience seeped into how he handled certain aspects of life, never were evident to him until he came to terms with the reality of it happening. Common also discussed how his relationship with his daughter, Omoye, has gotten better since she expressed to him she didn’t feel he did a good job as a dad. He opened up to us and let us know that he had to push past ego and listen to her; not just hear her. His willingness to be open and receive what Omoye had to say, was what aided in building the relationship they now have.
Common also discussed the importance of therapy and how it has played a major part in his transformation to being a better man. Faith and prayer help to keep him focused and grounded in times of turmoil and all of these components are necessary. Common spoke to us about being present; Being in the moment you’re in and not allowing the past or thoughts of future what ifs to rob you of the peace you have today.
Melanin King Monday applauds Common for your open heart and open dialogue. Revealing the hurts of our past is not usually an easy thing to do nor is it comfortable. Common is definitely changing the narrative in our community with “Let Love Have the Last Word” with an open and honest look at a black man who has lived through and overcome sexual abuse and also how to be better with self and with others. I feel that Common’s work on self is an example to other Kings of how God processes us using different events in life to strengthen us for the next level. Big thanks to Common for paving the way for other Kings to HEAL. Common, you are truly a Melanin King!