The Freedom of “No”!

Are you a reliable and dedicated friend or family member with a good heart and some days you wish you weren’t? I mean, does everyone around you seem to depend on your “yes” because they KNOW that you’re going to say it? And I’m not talking about the people who ask you for help and actually follow through with their promise to pay you back or they are someone that can reciprocate when you need something, even if it’s just advisement. I mean the folk who just ask for the sake of asking because they are so confident in your “yes”. Well, it’s time to change that and to start saying NO!

    Do you understand the power of NO?! As a person who had an issue with this word for a large part of my life, and still do at times if I’m honest, I had to learn the effective and fulfilling power of NO. As a leader it is very important to also know and understand that balance is a key element to your success. You have to be willing to compromise and to also be firm. When you are the person in people’s lives that “leads” they often come to you for advice and to just be a listening ear because they trust that leader spirit you carry whether you recognize you have that or not. 

   One Sunday after church I saw one of my favorite Kings and we were just chit chatting and I asked if he was ok. He told me that he had just moved and he was exhausted. As he was speaking to me God was talking to me too. You see, this young man is a very talented musician and some months ago I let him know that whatever he had been praying for, God was going to open the door. Every time I see him that is what God says to me about him. So after he was done telling me about all that had been going on, I told him that he needed to learn the power of NO! I told him that he needed to start saying no and also to get rid of some of those that he knows he needs to say no to. His next level depends on it. His “no”…OUR “no” will open doors that will NEVER shut!

    This very simple yet difficult to say two letter word is the difference between living in peace and living in pieces. “NO” will remove people from our space that we probably should have let go seasons ago, but held onto because we are comfortable. You are a King and everyone shouldn’t be apart of the kingdom. Your confidence will bring people into your life that want to reap the benefits of your name and your anointing. The call on your life is too great to waste time with those people and things that will not grow you. Your mental health should always be your priority when making any life decisions, in my opinion. If saying saying yes will cause a headache even 2 minutes after it leaves your mouth, say NO! This was the jest of what I conveyed to the King I was speaking to after church. God has too much planned for your future and there is too much at stake to ALWAYS say yes. Your “no” will undoubtedly let you know who is there for what is in your hand or there for what is in your heart. I pray that you learn the freedom of “no” and that you practice it daily…even for the simplest things. Like with anything else, practice makes perfect lol! Have a blessed week and while you’re at it, use the freedom of “no” to open a door this week!